There is more to it than just not checking our phones. That engages the coachee the whole time you’re talking. It’s called “coaching presence.
Well-coached coaches have a consistent coaching presence. the coach actively listens; attends to the topics and emotions of the coachee; is curious, but not pushy; goes with the flow in conversations and Warm up to silence.
Coaching is strenuous work. During a 15-minute practise, I observe people looking fatigued. See how to train your mind to concentrate and stay present when coaching others.
What takes so much out of you?
The one-project-per-quarter period is fairly rare these days. On average, people work on the same topic for only 10 minutes, and during that time they approach the topic by doing three different tasks.
Coaching takes time, at least six times longer than that of an average session. And its only approach is communication. Coaching is no surprise; it takes a lot of energy to focus, and we are out of shape.
How to increase presence
- Have a clear mind. Keep your attention focused on the coachee. Make the conversation your top priority. Allow the coachee to lead the way and discover his own solutions
- Gain focus. A setting that encourages you to focus Turn off any social networking sites or email. Put your phone on aeroplane mode.
- Concentrate before the conversation.
- Five minutes before the coaching conversation, be present. Leave your other projects aside—physically and mentally. Be centred. Bring up old appointment notes.
- Focus on the conversation. Dismiss your own ideas, strategies, and solutions. Let the coachee’s needs guide you. Think of different angles to explore. Be non-formulaic. Leverage non-prescribed questions in your plan. Use your intuition
Cradling Presence is tiring physically. It takes even more focus. Let’s get into shape. Better coaching results will pay off.
How do you develop coaching presence?
- Mindful listening, open inquiry, and perceptive reflections are typically lessons learned as a coach. Relationship-building skills coaches can learn and practise in drills.
- Being-skills practise help coach presence be realised.
What coaches use to create a growth-promoting relationship and express who they are in their truest form are just skills. Affirmation, authenticity, calm, courage, empathy, mindfulness, playfulness, wisdom, and zest enhancing your presence as a coach. ICF’s Core Competency #4 is known as “being fully present with your client” while others may call it “a way of being with clients that facilitates growth and change through connection.
The ICF defines coaching presence as competency. ICF: “coaching presence” is defined as the ability to be conscious and spontaneous with the client and employ an open, flexible, and confident style.
Coaching presence is one of the most powerful and impactful coaching skills. People are craving real-life connections in a time when human connection has taken a backseat. As a result, coaches should be able to coach presence and provide a non-judgmental, and safe human touch to their clients.
Placement of the coach have a huge impact on client outcomes.
More so than what coaches do for their clients, clients grow because of who their coaches are in relationship to them.
A coach can forge a relationship with clients and learn about their character strengths, also known as their aptitudes or capacities. Similarly, a coach must discover and utilise their own strengths.
The more coaches use and derive their strengths, the more powerful and impactful their coaching will be.
Being aware of one’s surroundings is one way to be a good coach.
As a coach, it is critical to focus on your clients, but to maintain impartiality and empathy as well.
Being empathetic includes being respectful and understanding of another person’s feelings, needs, and desires. Empathy seeks to understand and value the experience of another person. It is also described as a way to connect with someone’s positive and life-enriching experience.
Being in tune with the needs of the current person is the fundamental relational dynamic involved in coaching growth.